Safe, Sweet, or Spicy?
test your Valentine’s day heat tolerance with this couple’s gift guide.
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Time for Valentine’s Day… again 💕 Giant hearts and stuffed animals are everywhere! For some, they’re just waiting for the cotton candy cloud to dissipate, but for others, this could be as special as an anniversary.
It’s more than a Hallmark holiday and conversation hearts. Fun Facts… Verbal Valentine salutations date back to medieval times… Evidence of love notes signed, “From Your Valentine” showed up just one century later. A tradition that stands the test of time. It was also believed way back then that February 14th was the beginning of the birds’ mating season. No wonder it became known as the holiday of romance 🕊️ 🐝
So ‘tis the season to check in with your partner’s love language! Have Never heard of this New York Times Bestseller?! That’s okay, get the book or take the quiz Here. Or here’s a quick recap:
It’s the way you and your partner perceive love from one another. Here’s a scenario, say you’re the giver of nice gifts to your partner to make up for lost time together. In the beginning, your partner loved it but after a while has become seemingly underwhelmed with the presentation of another present. You’ve outdone yourself every time but yet your lover’s reaction doesn’t reflect it. 🤔Hm?
My best guess? Receiving Gifts is simply not their love language and most likely falls in another category.
There Are 5 Different Love Languages that lovers fall into, they include:
Words of Affirmation- Lots of compliments and I love yous’
Quality Time- Dates and time set aside just for the 2 of you
Receiving Gifts- Buying a little gift for no reason, just to say “I was thinking of you.”
Acts of Service- Taking on a chore or doing something they like because it’ll make them happy
Physical Touch- Hugs, kisses, cuddles, massages, etc.
Trust me, this is great knowledge to have! It tells you information that allows you to understand yourself and your partner better. Yes, this is a gift guide because gifts are always acceptable on holidays! But I hope this inspires the romantic in you by playing into the language of love between you and yours this Valentine’s Day.
Okay Men, Listen Up:
Women find it very sexy when their man comes up with, and executes a plan. It doesn’t matter how extensive it is. You planned something you thought she would like and that speaks volumes, hence, “the thought counts.” You know your own limitations, budget, and hopefully, your lady’s taste so plan something that suits both of you.
If your woman goes crazy when you buy her gifts, then surprise her with a little something. If she loves spending quality time with you, then make a plan to have an uninterrupted evening together. Make sense?
By feeding into her love language, she will know how you feel about her, which makes for excellent foreplay. Show her you see how special she is by giving her what she wants and chances are she’ll return the favor.
Keep It Simple:
A Nice Card- Especially for your lover that wants words of affirmation. Tell her how you feel… she can handle it 😉
Flowers- Anything from a single rose to an elaborate bouquet. I have personally used 1-800-FLOWERS and would recommend them. But above anything, I suggest supporting a local business if you want to blow her away with a floral arrangement!
Chocolate- It’s a known fact that almost all women love chocolate… I mean really who doesn’t? This Box Of Chocolates is a huge win in my book!
Reservations- BOOK IN ADVANCE! Reservations can start filing as early as the beginning of the year. A good rule to follow, the nicer the restaurant the sooner you should book.
OR All of the Above- Cover all your bases 🙃
The little things are everything. These are classic, idiot-proof options for your lady this Valentine’s Day. In truth, roughly 30 to 36 percent of women appreciate these simple but thoughtful efforts. Tune into what your lover likes. One-third of relationships don’t need more than this.
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Make It Sweeter:
Take those same classic ideas and turn things up by pin-pointing her love language. This is where you can really think about what your lady would appreciate more. Again, plan something that suits both of you; and remember to plan ahead, especially if your intentions fall on the 14th. Create your own combination or use these ideas to enhance the Valentine basics and make it an even sweeter experience.
Fool-Proof Valentine’s Day ideas based on love language:
Words of Affirmation- Send flowers to her office with a sweet note about dinner reservations tonight.
Quality Time- A fun lunch date followed by taking her to a confectionary and grabbing a bottle of wine to enjoy at home together.
Receiving Gifts- Take her shopping or hide a little present by her pillow, her purse, or wherever you think it’ll make a bigger impact on her day. Leave a trail of Valentine mementos around the house to make the aw-effect linger.
Acts of Service- Have her wake up to a bouquet of flowers, a fresh pot of coffee or tea, and you preparing breakfast.
Physical Touch- Make sure she gets lots of hugs and kisses that leave goosebumps on the skin! At the end of the night take a bath together and offer a back massage.
Just to get you started…
The Size of the Man is Judged by the Size of the Smile on His Woman’s Face. Give some thought to what her interests or needs are and watch her smile all over you!
Would She like:
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Spice It Up:
Krank up the heat by really going the extra mile this year. Show off how spicy you are by having a That’s-Not-All approach this year. Once again, this is to spark inspiration so feel free to let your imagination run wild. Note that you should not go outside your means, ideas like these can be accomplished with any budget!
Hotel and Dinner Reservations
It’s perfectly okay to celebrate any time during the month of February. Pick a weekend that works for the two of you and make a little staycation out of it. It’s the perfect way to release the gotta-get-away craving and break character which could be a lot of fun later on.
You both get the chance to unplug from your daily routine, the kids or pets are taken care of, and you two get to focus on each other. You have the chance to remind each other of why you fell in love in the first place. Spend quality time together, look into her eyes, and tell her all the kind things she deserves to hear.
Many boutique hotels offer romantic amenities like rose petals on the bed or a bottle of champagne waiting in the room when you check-in.
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❤️🔥Target Love Language:
Quality Time
Words of Affirmations
Receiving Gifts
How beautiful would this look on your lady?! Super sexy and flirty, you won’t be able to look away.
Let the romance continue with this little somethin’ for you and her!
Rock the At-Home Date Night
Have a plan for dinner whether you cooked or ordered takeout. If you’re up for the challenge of finding beverages that pair well with dinner, that might earn you some more love points. Whenever spending quality time together, it’s a great opportunity for intimate conversations and compliments. Create a playlist or plan a marathon to enjoy after dinner with your wine, bubbly, cocktails, or mocktails.
❤️🔥Target Love Language:
Quality Time
Acts of Service
Words of Affirmation
Have a little present waiting on the bed for her when it’s time to go upstairs like a sexy robe or jammies like these 🥰
If she loves this half as much as I do, you nailed Valentine’s Day! More love points for you 💕
She’ll be most comfortable and the satin material will feel amazing for both of you!
*If you don’t know her size and are not a fan of spoiler alerts, check a shirt in her closet when she’s not looking… Or phone a friend.
Feelin’ Bubbly
No matter how you dined tonight, keep up the lovey vibes by drawing a bubble bath for two. Dress up the occasion in any way you’d like with wine or champagne, candles, bath oils, rose petals, you name it. She will love that you put this much thought into making a special night that’s all about celebrating the love you share.
And if you’re the dude thinking, “psh… I’m not the mushy kinda guy.” Ask yourself, are you really opposed to getting in the tub with your naked woman? And what better way than to get her in the tub with you? After all, it is your lady you are trying to impress tonight.
❤️🔥Target Love Language:
Physical Touch
Quality Time
Words of Affirmation
Gift a bath set like this that has all the bathtime luxuries. Of course, the scent is personal so don’t be afraid to shop around. However…
This French Rose Bath Set makes for a stunning Valentine’s Day gift that’ll have all the senses tingling!
To My Ladies:
Men are much more simple but they still appreciate the little things. So let’s not over-complicate this, they really just want you for Valentine’s Day. You can create your own little romance according to his love language as well. I think we all know what men ultimately want and the night will come to that. This is all about the little steps leading toward bedtime 😉
Just like a woman appreciates the thought put into a practical gift, so does a man. The gifts featured in this section I find to hit the nail on the head and will get any man in the holiday spirit. This article shares surveys taken and broken down by gender, age range, and even by state on what the most popular love languages are.
Across the board, Quality Time takes the cake! Up to 48% of us just want to spend time together. So…
Here are some sweet Gifts That Encourage Spending Quality Time Together over and over again…
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Keep It Simple:
Sometimes, it can be tricky to find the right gift for your man. Thoughts run through your head like will he actually like it or use it? What does he even need? As women, we tend to overthink these things. Keep it simple by glorifying the basics.
Make A DIY Gift Basket with:
His favorite snacks
A card that’ll have him no choice but to be in touch with his feelings
Maybe a small bottle of his favorite liquor or something of the sort
And a little gift that’s an improvement of an everyday item.
He probably already has a wallet, but does he have one like this?
Equipped with RFID blocker technology and the slim design fits perfectly in any pocket and doesn’t hurt if you sit on it 😉
Give your honey This Thoughtful Gift that he will appreciate every day!
❤️🔥Target Love Language:
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Words of Affirmation
Make It Sweeter:
Do something that is out of the ordinary for you. For example, if you normally do all the cooking then suggest going out to dinner or ordering takeout. Vice-Versa if you normally dine out, give it a shot in the kitchen tonight.
Dress up the dining room table with candles, place settings, and maybe a cute centerpiece. Get dressed up yourself as you would for any other special occasion and he won’t be able to take his eyes off you. When the time is right, give him a little gift like this…
This YSL Cologne is my top pick for male fragrance. It’s crisp, fresh, and a little woody. Clean and masculine, exactly how your man should smell!
Again, fragrance is personal so find one that suits you both. Whether it’s a spicy, aquatic, or fresh scent, cologne always makes a great gift.
OR
A pocket knife makes a great gift for any man! And this isn’t just a pocket knife.
It’s a window breaker, seatbelt cutter, serrated knife, bottle opener, and screwdriver!
Say I love you by preparing your love for any situation with This Badass Gift
❤️🔥Target Love Language:
Acts of Service
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Spice It Up:
Test his heat tolerance this year and do something you’ve never done before. Anything from whispering sexy things into his ear to taking control of your holiday plans, to calculating exactly what you’ll be wearing underneath your date night outfit.
Play it cool and let everything flow, whether that’s with his plans or your own. Give a spicy gift, or if you are the spice make him work for it with a little strip tease game. Serve up some drinks, play some music and just be yourself. He thinks you are much more beautiful than you probably give yourself credit.
Men love massages too, work out a tit-for-tat deal with body rubs with Massage Oils like these 😌
Please, put your own spin on it and never do anything you’re not comfortable with. But chances are he thinks you are beautiful exactly the way you are and love is in the air so celebrate it in your own way 💕
A touch of class with a gift like this! A beautiful Whiskey Glass Set with its own wooden case for storage.
Complete with granite stones to keep the drink chilled but not watered down
If your honey loves whiskey and cocktails this is a no-brainer.
.❤️🔥Target Love Language:
Physical Touch
Acts of Service
Quality Time
To Wrap Things Up…
Have fun this Valentine’s Day and be creative with your beau. This holiday has existed since the 14th century and it continues to grab ahold of us year after year. Use the power of knowledge with Gary Chapman’s Love Languages to be the best lover you can be this year 🥰
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